Wednesday, January 30, 2013

A Note From Dwain

Hi, I am Debbie's husband, Dwain.

Some of you have asked how I, as the spouse of a person with Fibro copes with it all. I think its because I am very patient with regard to my wife. I am also the type of person who keeps comments to myself, MOST of the time. I am human too so I will vent but I usually control it. The only piece of advice my father-in-law gave me the day we were married was "make no assumptions." That has been a valuable piece of advice. Another thing about me is that I am not judgemental about what other people do, say, like, or, whatever. Again this is most of the time. I think that all these things together help me deal with my wife's situation.

With regard to considering what Deb is doing to deal with her pain and discomfort from Fibro, I ask myself if I were uncomfortable, what would I do about it. The answer is "what ever makes me feel better." I don't always agree with some of the things she tries, but if she says they may help her feel better, who am I to say they don't. Deb takes a lot of pills, all of them prescribed by her doctor. I once swallowed her morning doses when the cups that she puts our medications in were reversed and I was in a hurry to get to work. Those pills knocked me out for a full day. If she needs meds that are that powerful to get through her day, I guess I can back off a little.

Deb is a very strong willed person, you might call it stubborn. She has her way of doing things and isn't always flexible about changes. Our forty years of marriage has taught us both how to deal with that, and it sums up in that we are both patient and tolerant of our personal traits.

26 comments:

  1. Oh I know it is very hard on the husband I have one of them patient caring trying to understand husbands too.I don't think he knows exactly what my pain is like but he is always there.
    Dwain I admire your dedication to Deb you are a true Hero and I know she appreciates it very much. I know this because I appreciate My Hero very much. Fibro does indeed test a marriage. Give Deb a hug for me. B

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    1. Aw wonderful to know that our hubbies are soo caring. Its a learning curve,is it not,for both the Fibromyalgia sufferer and their families. Hugs and best wishes. L. M x

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  3. Good thing you have a strong personality to undergo this kind of situation.

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  4. Hi Deb-I suffered with fibromyalgia for over 30 years. I thought I just had to "deal with it". I was referred to a therapeutic healer, and today I have no pain anywhere in my body! It is amazing!! I f you want to know more about my journey you can read my blog @ letgofibro.blogspot.com and check out Viviane Oberhand's 4-Day Breathrough to Wellness. My life has been transformed!.

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  8. Unless you have lived it or with someone who has it, you have no idea the havoc that fibro has on your life. I have had this for over 20 years and has been getting steadily worse. Suck it up princess does not apply anymore. My life is hell!

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    1. Luanne,
      I don't know if what happened to me is similar to your situation that I posted below. Read it and see if it works. My changes are very gradual, not wearing the bra, but it is slowing getting better and better. Good Luck.

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  9. Hello, I have been suffering from fibro for almost 20 years. I have tried everything under the sun for relief. I actually just started going to a chiropractor and it has help me tremendously. Here is some more info on what I found out. I hope this helps! http://www.seagirtspine.com/chiropractic-solution-for-fibromyalgia-in-sea-girt-nj-rehabilitation-office/

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  10. I was pre-diagnosed by my neurologist as having fibromyalgia. He's wanted for me to see the expert rheumatologist to confirm this. Throughout the beginning of this nightmare that began last December, I've stayed watchful and kept copious notes on where and when the pain occured, frequency, intensity etc. The pain did indeed spread up and below my bra-line, where it began quite suddenly. Seemed it was ALL around that point. After another appointment with an independent physical therapist, very knowledgeable but didn't really know what to do except to 'breathe and relax my upper body', I decided it was time to stop wearing my bra. Made sense since the very intense pain seemed to emanate from that point, even though it was just about everywhere, including my chest/boobs, neck, shoulders and top of head. To my surprise, and this is day 7, just about all of the pain is gone. I'm happy, but pissed that none of the professionals thought as deep as I that the hook on my bra in the back was wrecking havoc on every nerve, muscle and tendon starting at that bra hook position. Give this a try if your pain seems to originate from your back/braline. I am still shocked at this and feel good and comfortable now.

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  11. Deb is very lucky to have an understanding husband like you. I am blessed with a caring husband myself and I have fibromyalgia for almost 4 years now. God bless you both.

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  13. Dwain - you're amazing and wonderful. I wrote a book called FIBROMYALGIA RELIEF (lars clausen) but that's no substitute for a loving relationship! My book is about stress relief, and actually removing the charge from past traumas or experiences - it can help with reducing stress - might be of interest for you at some point, http://www.myfibromyalgiarelief.com All the best wishes to the both of you for your journey, Lars Clausen

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  14. Your husband so just like mine. I think we are very lucky to have them. When I have my can't get out of bed days, he is right there for me.
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    My son suffered fibromyalgia in the year 2013 and it was really tough and heartbreaking for me because he was my all and the symptoms were terrible, he always complain of joint stiffness, and he always have difficulty falling asleep . we tried various therapies prescribed by our neurologist but none could cure him. I searched for a cure and i saw a testimony by someone who was cured and so many other with similar body problem, and he left the contact of the doctor who had the cure to fibromyalgia . I never imagined fibromyalgia has a natural cure not until i contacted him and he assured me my son will be fine. I got the herbal medication he recommended and my son used it and in one months time he was fully okay even up till this moment he is so full of life. fibromyalgia has a cure and it is a herbal cure contact the doctor for more info on drwilliams098765@gmail.com on how to get the medication. Thanks for reading my story

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  17. thanks for such a useful information and a good recommendation with his herb am now also free from fibromyalgia am really so grateful .

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  18. ALL THANKS TO DR WILLIAMS FOR THE GREAT DEED HE HAVE DONE FOR MY DAUGHTER?
    My daughter suffered from fibromyalgia for more than 12 years which we started experiencing in her when she turned 8 year and 5 months we all thought it will end but got even worse as days went by. We tried all several treatments and therapy prescribed by various doctors we met but to no avail, she always complain of joint stiffness, and have difficulty falling asleep. She usually tells me she feeling tired. This were steady disorder that disrupted her entire life, even at night she slept less because of this.It was during a casual conversation with a friend that i learned about Dr Williams herbal medicine I was able to contact him on his email address. and give him all the necessary information that he needed,few day later he sent me the herbal portion and his medicine was able to restore her back to normal and she is very okay now without any side effects whatsoever. If you have fibromyalgia, do not hesitate to contact him on drwilliams098675@gmail.com for advice and for his product. I hope this also helps someone out there

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  19. I am Sophie from Canada, I once suffered from a terrible and Chronic fibromhyalgia,since i was bone , the doctor told me there was no permanent cure i was given medications to slow down its progress, i constantly felt my health was deteriorating as i constantly had Painful menstrual periods,this ailment was really terrible especially when am going out with my friends, i have this constant disorder for about 31 years, this was really a terrible ailment ,on thin one day that i was going through the internet,and i came across a post of Mrs jessica on how his daughter was been cured from fibromhyalgia through the help of Dr Williams herbal product, I contacted this herbal doctor via his email and explain everything to him and make purchase of his product,few days later he sent me the herbal medicine through courier service, when i received the herbal medicine, i used it for 1 months and two weeks as prescribed by dr williams and i was totally cured within those week of usage,on thin now i have not experience any sign or characteristics again . for more information you can email him on drwilliams098675@gmail.com for help

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  20. ALL THANKS TO DR WILLIAMS FOR THE GREAT DEED HE HAVE DONE FOR MY DAUGHTER?
    My daughter suffered from fibromyalgia for more than 12 years which we started experiencing in her when she turned 8 year and 5 months we all thought it will end but got even worse as days went by. We tried all several treatments and therapy prescribed by various doctors we met but to no avail, she always complain of joint stiffness, and have difficulty falling asleep. She usually tells me she feeling tired. This were steady disorder that disrupted her entire life, even at night she slept less because of this.It was during a casual conversation with a friend that i learned about Dr Williams herbal medicine I was able to contact him on his email address. and give him all the necessary information that he needed,few day later he sent me the herbal portion and his medicine was able to restore her back to normal and she is very okay now without any side effects whatsoever. If you have fibromyalgia, do not hesitate to contact him on drwilliams098675@gmail.com for advice and for his product. I hope this also helps someone out there

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  22. As a sign of gratitude for how my son was saved from fibromyalgia , i decided to reach out to those still suffering from this.
    My son suffered fibromyalgia in the year 2013 and it was really tough and heartbreaking for me because he was my all and the symptoms were terrible, he always complain of joint stiffness, and he always have difficulty falling asleep . we tried various therapies prescribed by our neurologist but none could cure him. I searched for a cure and i saw a testimony by someone who was cured and so many other with similar body problem, and he left the contact of the doctor who had the cure to fibromyalgia . I never imagined fibromyalgia has a natural cure not until i contacted him and he assured me my son will be fine. I got the herbal medication he recommended and my son used it and in one months time he was fully okay even up till this moment he is so full of life. fibromyalgia has a cure and it is a herbal cure contact the doctor for more info on drwilliams098675@gmail.com on how to get the medication. Thanks for reading my story

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